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Benji Lovitt

If you had asked me if I would have ever read an entertaining blog post about the Kaddish, I would have said, "*&^%, no." I would be wrong.


Thanks, Benji...

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Rabbi Arnold D. Samlan [The Notorious R.A.V., D.B.A. Jewish Connectivity

A number of books have been written in recent years that painstakingly detail authors' personal experiences with the year of kaddish [been there, done that, 3 times myself]. But you brief reflection adds a whole different dimension to it: wit and humor along with the tears and loss. For anyone who doesn't already know you, Esther, this posting is a great introduction. Thank you for an article that I've already tweeted out and will refer to in the future as a rabbi and educator.

You rock!


Thank you so much, Rav Arnie. As I process the considerable emotional impact of this time period, I use any tool that comes to me. The humor is a big part of it for me, and I hope it will be for others...todah rabah!
Pardon the brevity - sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry


Ortho congs deserve your comments

But some are very welcoming to women saying kaddish.

Some places allow women to say it alone
Some permit women to say it with men

and yes some tolerate it while some do not tolerate it at all.

I am happy to pray in a place where women can be found from 6am to 9pm saying kaddish


Where I come from, it's bow left, bow right and bow forward at the end without all the steps. Where it gets messy is the Amidah, where some go forward three steps and some take three steps backward at the start, reversing the process at the end. This results in numerous people staggering over folding chairs and each other in keeping with the solemn nature of the occasion.

And I must say, it is unusual in my experience for a Jewish-themed blog by an actual Jewish person to discuss the rituals of death and dying! Jews never think about death or depression or sad things. Well, at least it's not one of those horrible sex blogs with all kinds of lascivious pictures. You would would never do that, would you? Esther? (Oh, never mind!)


No, Michael, I would never do that. As you already know, lascivious photos are available in plenty of other places on the web, but not here.

I think this actual Jewish person who is actually dealing with all these rituals now will likely be writing about this stuff more in the future - so if its a Jewish approach to death and dying youre looking for, look no further!

And as for Jews not thinking about sad things, I do need to slightly disagree with you, and point you in the direction of the Jewish calendar and our main holy trinity of Judaism: they tried to kill us (boo), we won (just barely, but whoo-hoo!), lets eat (gosh, Im stuffed, but those latkes smell amazing...).


Esther, I always learn something new in your writing. So tell us more about your understanding of Jewish rituals and holidays and life. I love it all, and my rabbi is a bit too academic for easy listening.

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