You know we love you over here. We love Scrubs and the manic energy you bring to the wacky, but ultimately relatable Everyperson who is JD. Garden State resonated too, with us in our hearts and with most people we know, including members of our family. We'll even go out on a limb and say we'd probably love your whole mishpocha, too. (New Jersey foreva, yo.)
And we know you've been dating Mandy Moore. And if you had to date a pop star, we understand: she's definitely the one. With her comic turn in Saved and her insistence on being different from Britney, Christina and Jessica, among others, she's a teen popstar we could relate to, and even respect a little. (We might even forgive her equating the way she misses love with the way she misses candy. Because let's face it. She's totally cute. And you guys are totally cute together.)
But watching Scrubs tonight, on the heels of the news that you may have become engaged to Ms. Moore, felt more than odd. It made us feel queasy. It's hard for people like us to plunge a dagger into the heart of a love between kindred spirits--we want to believe in love, not destroy it. But this news once verified, will plunge the Jewesses into misery and mourning. We want to believe that our Hebrew homies will date and marry closer to home, but the reality is that once they move to Hollywood, it's all over. Music swells, big-screen kiss, interfaith wedding, the end.
Not that there's anything wrong with love. And our love for our American-Jewish TV and film personalities doesn't disappear when they marry a non-relative. But our happiness for our Semitic stars is like the broken glass, the unpainted corner of our happiness for a love that's been found.
For those of us with Jewish tradition at the centers of our lives, for those who restrict our soulmate searches to the tribe, even if it takes us interminably longer, each such union reminds us of how difficult we're finding it, and of how much easier it would be if we were more open. We think about the ways in which we restrict ourselves and wonder if we're making the right choice, or if it's truly a choice at all.
We look to the Jews in Hollywood to reflect our own images--our experiences and challenges writ large, in a public prominence that our daily lives lack. And when those iterations of the larger Jewish us make choices that seem easier, that makes us question everything.
So if the rumors are true, we will celebrate that two adorable, talented people have found each other and are building a life together. I can say congratulations, and wish you well. But from a Jewish perspective, I cannot say mazal tov. And I hope you'll understand.